GAMBARAN RESILIENSI POSITIF PADA DEWASA AWAL YANG TUMBUH DENGAN EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE PARENTS
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https://doi.org/10.51878/paedagogy.v6i4.16464Keywords:
Resiliensi Positif, Emotionally Immature Parents, Dewasa AwalAbstract
We often find that there are parents who have not been able to understand their roles correctly for their children. Parents may only be physically present, but unable to be emotionally supportive of their children. Individuals who grow up with emotionally immature parents can experience distinct negative impacts on their development. However, some individuals are capable of developing positive resilience despite adverse experiences with their parents. The research method employed is a qualitative case study comprising in-depth interviews with three early adult participants from emotionally immature parenting backgrounds. Structured interviews and thematic data analysis were conducted based on Wagnild and Young's resilience theory and Gibson's emotionally immature parents framework, supplemented by Bowlby's attachment theory and Erikson's psychosocial developmental stages. The study revealed that each participant exhibited different dimensions of resilience, whereas the dimension of existential aloneness was observed in only one participant. This study contributes academically by exploring the framework of emotionally immature parents as an emerging construct in Indonesia. Furthermore, this research differs from others as it highlights adaptive development rather than focusing exclusively on psychopathological deficits.
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Sering kali ditemukan bahwa terdapat orang tua yang belum mampu memahami perannya secara tepat bagi anak. Fenomena tersebut menunjukkan bahwa orang tua kerap hanya mampu hadir secara fisik, namun belum mampu mendampingi kebutuhan perkembangan emosional anak. Individu yang dibesarkan oleh figur orang tua dengan kondisi belum matang secara emosional (emotionally immature parents) tentu menghadapi berbagai tantangan perkembangan yang signifikan. Kendati demikian, sebagian individu justru berhasil mencapai proses resiliensi yang adaptif dari paparan pengalaman buruk di lingkungan keluarga tersebut. Penelitian ini menerapkan pendekatan kualitatif studi kasus melalui wawancara terstruktur mendalam terhadap tiga partisipan berusia dewasa awal yang dibesarkan oleh emotionally immature parents. Pengolahan data dilakukan dengan analisis tematik berbasis teori resiliensi Wagnild dan Young serta konsep emotionally immature parents dari Gibson, yang dilengkapi dengan perspektif teori kelekatan Bowlby serta perkembangan psikososial Erikson. Hasil penelaahan menunjukkan bahwa setiap partisipan mengekspresikan kombinasi dimensi resiliensi yang khas, dengan dimensi existential aloneness hanya teridentifikasi pada satu partisipan. Studi ini menyumbangkan kontribusi teoritis melalui penguatan literatur mengenai emotionally immature parents di ranah psikologi perkembangan di Indonesia. Fokus kajian diarahkan pada dinamika resiliensi positif, sehingga memperluas cakrawala penelitian yang sebelumnya didominasi oleh evaluasi dampak patologis semata.
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